I was able to save ps_mem output as well as free -h output after 23h runtime on a clean guest user (with only Konsole and Kate open). ps_mem still shows basically no memory used, but free -h shows 80 Gib used (htop also shows 80Gib used.)
Output pasted below:
at 23hr runtime:
free -h
total used free shared buff/cache available
Mem: 125Gi 84Gi 34Gi 174Mi 7.7Gi 40Gi
Swap: 8.0Gi 0B 8.0Gi
sudo ps_mem
[sudo] password for guest:
Private + Shared = RAM used Program
148.0 KiB + 24.5 KiB = 172.5 KiB fusermount3
304.0 KiB + 68.5 KiB = 372.5 KiB rtkit-daemon
432.0 KiB + 127.5 KiB = 559.5 KiB xsettingsd
536.0 KiB + 119.5 KiB = 655.5 KiB dconf-service
556.0 KiB + 146.5 KiB = 702.5 KiB xdg-permission-store
656.0 KiB + 206.5 KiB = 862.5 KiB agent
740.0 KiB + 181.5 KiB = 921.5 KiB at-spi2-registryd
752.0 KiB + 187.5 KiB = 939.5 KiB at-spi-bus-launcher
532.0 KiB + 548.0 KiB = 1.1 MiB avahi-daemon (2)
896.0 KiB + 230.5 KiB = 1.1 MiB systemd-userdbd
456.0 KiB + 765.0 KiB = 1.2 MiB dnsmasq (2)
1.1 MiB + 162.5 KiB = 1.3 MiB xdg-document-portal
1.1 MiB + 165.5 KiB = 1.3 MiB obexd
1.1 MiB + 422.5 KiB = 1.5 MiB systemd-timesyncd
1.1 MiB + 374.5 KiB = 1.5 MiB systemd-machined
1.4 MiB + 122.5 KiB = 1.5 MiB bluetoothd
1.3 MiB + 222.5 KiB = 1.5 MiB accounts-daemon
1.9 MiB + 128.5 KiB = 2.0 MiB (sd-pam)
1.5 MiB + 491.5 KiB = 2.0 MiB kwin_wayland_wrapper
1.7 MiB + 513.5 KiB = 2.2 MiB systemd-logind
1.7 MiB + 591.5 KiB = 2.3 MiB goa-identity-service
1.6 MiB + 681.5 KiB = 2.3 MiB dbus-broker-launch (3)
908.0 KiB + 2.0 MiB = 2.9 MiB sudo (2)
3.2 MiB + 233.5 KiB = 3.4 MiB upowerd
2.7 MiB + 839.5 KiB = 3.5 MiB systemd-userwork (3)
2.4 MiB + 1.2 MiB = 3.5 MiB xembedsniproxy
2.5 MiB + 1.2 MiB = 3.6 MiB gmenudbusmenuproxy
3.6 MiB + 219.5 KiB = 3.8 MiB htop
2.3 MiB + 1.8 MiB = 4.0 MiB virtlogd
3.0 MiB + 1.2 MiB = 4.2 MiB sddm
3.9 MiB + 311.5 KiB = 4.2 MiB polkitd
3.8 MiB + 441.5 KiB = 4.3 MiB systemd-udevd
3.5 MiB + 968.5 KiB = 4.5 MiB sddm-helper
4.1 MiB + 806.5 KiB = 4.9 MiB xdg-desktop-portal
4.7 MiB + 448.5 KiB = 5.2 MiB udisksd
4.3 MiB + 947.5 KiB = 5.2 MiB systemd-resolved
4.3 MiB + 1.5 MiB = 5.8 MiB bash (2)
5.7 MiB + 297.5 KiB = 6.0 MiB dbus-broker (3)
4.1 MiB + 2.0 MiB = 6.1 MiB virtnetworkd
4.8 MiB + 1.4 MiB = 6.3 MiB startplasma-wayland
5.9 MiB + 1.4 MiB = 7.3 MiB goa-daemon
5.8 MiB + 2.1 MiB = 7.9 MiB kactivitymanagerd
6.9 MiB + 1.1 MiB = 7.9 MiB baloo_file
7.6 MiB + 1.0 MiB = 8.6 MiB pipewire
4.9 MiB + 3.9 MiB = 8.8 MiB evolution-addressbook-factory
5.4 MiB + 3.5 MiB = 8.8 MiB evolution-calendar-factory
8.4 MiB + 1.1 MiB = 9.5 MiB NetworkManager
7.4 MiB + 3.4 MiB = 10.8 MiB systemd (2)
8.8 MiB + 2.6 MiB = 11.3 MiB org_kde_powerdevil
11.1 MiB + 373.5 KiB = 11.5 MiB pipewire-pulse
12.7 MiB + 0.5 KiB = 12.7 MiB containerd-shim-runc-v2
9.7 MiB + 3.3 MiB = 13.0 MiB evolution-source-registry
14.3 MiB + 6.0 MiB = 20.4 MiB evolution-alarm-notify
20.9 MiB + 2.8 MiB = 23.6 MiB polkit-kde-authentication-agent-1
21.9 MiB + 2.9 MiB = 24.8 MiB kwalletd6
21.5 MiB + 3.9 MiB = 25.3 MiB blueman-tray
23.2 MiB + 3.8 MiB = 27.0 MiB xdg-desktop-portal-kde
20.8 MiB + 7.2 MiB = 28.0 MiB kaccess
21.0 MiB + 7.2 MiB = 28.2 MiB ksmserver
26.8 MiB + 2.0 MiB = 28.8 MiB wireplumber
25.0 MiB + 4.7 MiB = 29.7 MiB blueman-applet
27.1 MiB + 4.1 MiB = 31.2 MiB xwaylandvideobridge
26.8 MiB + 4.9 MiB = 31.7 MiB kdeconnectd
28.0 MiB + 6.4 MiB = 34.3 MiB DiscoverNotifier
33.4 MiB + 2.2 MiB = 35.6 MiB firewalld
41.9 MiB + 1.3 MiB = 43.2 MiB Xwayland
36.3 MiB + 7.5 MiB = 43.8 MiB kded6
53.5 MiB + 20.5 KiB = 53.5 MiB containerd
51.5 MiB + 3.8 MiB = 55.4 MiB firewall-applet
27.2 MiB + 28.2 MiB = 55.5 MiB systemd-journald
36.1 MiB + 20.8 MiB = 56.9 MiB konsole
70.6 MiB + 171.5 KiB = 70.8 MiB dockerd
20.7 MiB + 51.4 MiB = 72.1 MiB baloorunner
65.2 MiB + 7.7 MiB = 72.9 MiB Xorg
60.1 MiB + 12.8 MiB = 72.9 MiB syncthing (2)
23.0 MiB + 51.5 MiB = 74.5 MiB kioworker
35.5 MiB + 63.4 MiB = 98.9 MiB dolphin
101.0 MiB + 34.3 MiB = 135.3 MiB kwin_wayland
306.8 MiB + 26.4 MiB = 333.2 MiB plasmashell
405.3 MiB + 0.5 KiB = 405.3 MiB mariadbd
---------------------------------
2.2 GiB
=================================```