I have recently been noticing rise of bad behaviour in here Forums. This is caused by both apparently new users but also older users. Everyone has bad days and sun doesn’t always shine, but that’s not an excuse to behave badly towards others.
I think we don’t want this place to turn into Reddit, where this bad behaviour is common or Arch-forums where we gatekeep our fort so tightly that air stops getting in. Granted gatekeeping is really minor issue, but I think we should be avoiding it. Because it’s stupid.
Also, certain topics seem from time to time rise strong emotions. When this happens, my advice would be that instead of writing something like “Well your browser/office suite/pet quahog is just s**t” then maybe, just maybe, one should count to ten, reflect comment he was about to send and if it feels too heated, not post it at all.
This is just something that came to my mind. I have liked how civil and generally nice this forum has been. I would not like to see it turn into ruined land.
I agree and I see a lot of posts where sometimes I too just want to remove the post or close the topic. I too have to count to ten more often than not.
It bothers me the most when people do it in “Welcome” and “Goodbye” topics and make a none-issue an issue. There’s one specific topic I am talking about now and I think you know which I am talking about.
This place is too polite and well-meaning for that to happen. You can’t expect any place to be a utopia. Take the good with the bad. When I do feel passions welling up, I have used your ‘count to 10’ rule before. But 99% of the time I just won’t participate in a over-heated thread.
I agree with what you said, especially the need to strategize before acting sometimes.
Yeah I really feel this… I noticed that too (and I’m not even long here… Its universial i guess)
Rant turned out longer than expected
Like, the one with the browser debate,… like just let ppl enjoy whatever suits them. you can make clear that this and that browser has these pros and cons but dont hate on ppl specifically.
Or now just recently that guy that had to leave linux bc of his new job… WHY do ppl have to hate on him that he is from a specific country and make it political, he didnt even mention politics or where he is from in that post. Like,… he is already down and now hate on him on top of this, completly without reason??? (i came here because i like the “no politics rule” and my old distro became too political, on top of me trying out doing more myself)
People are just toxic for no reason whatsoever, the need to hop off social media and detoxify or something in my opinion.
Cudos to the moderators who have to deal with this stuff, highest respect to you
I wouldn’t call it “Bad Behavior” as well that can be left up to interpretation. What you see as anger I see as passion! While we should all act as Civilized people we also have to remember that some things interpret different as well.
There will always be discourse the simple fact of the matter is no matter how Civilized we act as a species we are still just barbarians at the foundation.
There have been several posts on this forum that I interpreted as anger or even rudeness. But as some of my more passionate posts have been misread as angry or rude, I concluded that it’s actually pretty damned difficult to get nuance from the printed word. Particularly sarcasm.
So, unless a post is overtly offensive, or uses obvious name-calling and such… I chalk it up to being passionate.
Passion is natural when we’re discussing open-source and other things that connect to it. And I’m passionate guy myself. I get very easily taken over by emotion when I talk about things that I feel important. I agree with @thefrog and @UncleSpellbinder.
However.
I find this really odd sentiment. So if you run around in the park and push someone over, it’s the one who stood there admiring swans at the lake who was at fault and has to go away?
i have seen some “over the top/inappropriate” replies to some posts ..
i take it in my stride, i mean you have people from all walks of life / countries , where 1 thing may seem innocent from say my country , some1 else from a different country/mindset , will find it offending or like attacking/insulting or whatever.
i generally ignore . or reply with something nice and a smile , to kinda calm down .
…i haven’t always been like that …
